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27/9/2017 1 Comment
Are You Choosing To Ignore Me?
#wisdom Have you ever had a conversation with someone and never actually heard a word they've said? Yes I'm guilty!!! If you are reading this and you've experienced this from me, please know that my ignorance was leading the way...xo
You were either looking as though you where listening but thinking about something else. You were scrolling through Facebook or texting or emailing someone. Or you may have been interrupting with stories or experiences of your own! Sound familiar?
The intention is not to make you feel guilty. The intention is to allow you to acknowledge the conversation, and then review how to hold that space for the person.
First think about what they are saying. Are they sharing with you a challenging situation that they need to get off their chest? Is it just a "how lovely is this weather today and how's your chai, almond, turmeric latte with a dusting of cinnamon?" conversation? Or is it that they are sharing to get some advice from you as their friend?
Once you have that covered, then you can move forward with being able to hold that space for the person and even ask them how they would like you to be there for them (obviously if it's a nice fluffy conversation, then run free and flowing and include some laughter)!
What does holding the space mean? Holding a space is where you allow the person to share with you in a non-judgmental way. They feel safe to express knowing that you're not feeling sorry for them, but rather just loving on them and holding that space for them to be real...
If the conversation allows, offering up advice or sharing an experience can also allow the other person to grow and explore an alternative way to move forward with their pain, challenge or problem. The biggest part is this: if you offer advice, do not be attached to them taking it and acting on it, as all of us are creating our reality every second of the day in the way that is exactly right for us - good or bad. So what may have resonated and worked for you, may not necessarily work for someone else...
The lessons of life are weaved into the fabric of our existence as we move in and out of our realities creating the good and bad that we need in order to move forward and grow and become the best versions of ourselves....
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